In 2005, Maurice Mierau and his wife, Betsy, travelled to Ukraine to adopt two small boys, age three and five. After weeks of delays while navigating a tangled bureaucracy, they returned to Canada as a proud new family of four. Now what?

In Detachment, Mierau probes not only the process of adoption but what comes after—the challenges of becoming a family, the strain on his marriage. While his son acts out and gets in trouble at school, Mierau feels removed, detached, thinking instead about his own emotionally distant father. Also born in Ukraine, Mierau's Mennonite father has a traumatic and mysterious past of his own. If Mierau can come to understand his father's life, perhaps he can start to make sense of his new sons...

Detachment is a moving, darkly funny, and searingly unsentimental memoir about learning to become a father and a son.

Table of Contents

Table of Contents
Front Cover 1
Back Cover 2
Half Title Page 3
Title Page 5
Copyright Page 6
Dedication 7
Epigraph 9
Table of Contents 11
Shrinking 13
Adoption 23
Detachment 97
Inventing My Family 161
Back in the USSR 207
Cuba 213
Home Again 227
Acknowledgements 231
Author Biography 233